Well, this article goes for both genders!
I have been relating so much of my girls' love or rather emotional stories. Most of them were devastating and frustrating that it made me think twice and thrice.I came up to a decision if a guy is into me enough he will make it work, I don't want to have a hand in that anymore.
These stories come to common ground of the girl being dumped and the man _ or in another phrase I would say "boy"_ gets "I'm the innocent person here, why did she get me all wrong in first place?
The idea is women are so smart, we get to dissect each and every action, word, look,,,etc accordingly, while men think " women build up these stuff in their minds to each and every thing we do, and twist it into something they want to".
Let us agree that men and women come from different planets when it comes to thinking and acting.
We act differently in all matters except when it comes to love we- men and women- aren't self contained, it just shows on the looks and actions and just a hint for you men (this is why we- women- dissect everything) but for you-men- this girl, girlfriend, fiance, or even your wife is expandable, "I do what I want and she's just there" or" I think I like this other girl, I'm still young I choose whoever I want"
I think sometimes men treat us in a disrespectful and humiliating way which they just don't bare in mind all the time.
I have studied these signs along my past years, and misleadingly I interrupted these actions and what I CALL SIGNS eventually coming from my brother as some have claimed!I mean one of them may ask you to support them emotionally with a case of a girl he had a crush on.
Believe me, we all ladies never misinterpret anything especially with signs, you haven't twisted things and got them the way you want them to. On the contrary, you smart and practical concerning these signs, and most of ladies are like that too.
Lets see what we can do about this phenomena, you are just my friend, you are just my sister, you deserve someone better than me,I'm going to be jealous of the man who'll take you from me
(when actually it could be him :D) thing,,, blalala.
For us girls lets not expect too much from men and lets not study men's actions towards us, because we are so good observers-by nature- men don't like getting caught of what they are doing.
while for men don't under estimate women's super powers interrupting everything,please.
For all the ladies who have been hurt from fool men- including me-because they just analyze every little thing, at least we care, you aren't making a fool of yourself you are just close to finding a perfect man for you.
Believe, that Allah puts us in the right track, if its not him then it sure is someone else. Sometimes the happy ending is "Moving on with your life" or the happy ending is on "finding good friends" or even discovering a new talent you never showed, or it even makes you realize a " missing treasure".
Don't be hurt girls, you weren't wrong from the beginning it was just them not realizing that you were smart and practical understanding and analyzing their moves that they think was absentminded, Good luck to you finding your path, Hard Luck to you man!
I have been relating so much of my girls' love or rather emotional stories. Most of them were devastating and frustrating that it made me think twice and thrice.I came up to a decision if a guy is into me enough he will make it work, I don't want to have a hand in that anymore.
These stories come to common ground of the girl being dumped and the man _ or in another phrase I would say "boy"_ gets "I'm the innocent person here, why did she get me all wrong in first place?
The idea is women are so smart, we get to dissect each and every action, word, look,,,etc accordingly, while men think " women build up these stuff in their minds to each and every thing we do, and twist it into something they want to".
Let us agree that men and women come from different planets when it comes to thinking and acting.
We act differently in all matters except when it comes to love we- men and women- aren't self contained, it just shows on the looks and actions and just a hint for you men (this is why we- women- dissect everything) but for you-men- this girl, girlfriend, fiance, or even your wife is expandable, "I do what I want and she's just there" or" I think I like this other girl, I'm still young I choose whoever I want"
I think sometimes men treat us in a disrespectful and humiliating way which they just don't bare in mind all the time.
I have studied these signs along my past years, and misleadingly I interrupted these actions and what I CALL SIGNS eventually coming from my brother as some have claimed!I mean one of them may ask you to support them emotionally with a case of a girl he had a crush on.
Believe me, we all ladies never misinterpret anything especially with signs, you haven't twisted things and got them the way you want them to. On the contrary, you smart and practical concerning these signs, and most of ladies are like that too.
Lets see what we can do about this phenomena, you are just my friend, you are just my sister, you deserve someone better than me,I'm going to be jealous of the man who'll take you from me
(when actually it could be him :D) thing,,, blalala.
For us girls lets not expect too much from men and lets not study men's actions towards us, because we are so good observers-by nature- men don't like getting caught of what they are doing.
while for men don't under estimate women's super powers interrupting everything,please.
For all the ladies who have been hurt from fool men- including me-because they just analyze every little thing, at least we care, you aren't making a fool of yourself you are just close to finding a perfect man for you.
Believe, that Allah puts us in the right track, if its not him then it sure is someone else. Sometimes the happy ending is "Moving on with your life" or the happy ending is on "finding good friends" or even discovering a new talent you never showed, or it even makes you realize a " missing treasure".
Don't be hurt girls, you weren't wrong from the beginning it was just them not realizing that you were smart and practical understanding and analyzing their moves that they think was absentminded, Good luck to you finding your path, Hard Luck to you man!
Isn't that quite biased and generalized? :D
ReplyDeleteits only one aspect im just showing here, Im not saying all men is like that but yes most of them y3ni
Deleteokay :D
DeleteWe are talking about the "Mixed Signals" both genders send when they are around someone they like or are starting to like. The longer the time they spend together, the closer they become, the more subtle those signals become and the more confusing it gets for the sender as well as the receiver.
Sometimes girls get attached easily. Actually this happens quite often in a randomly selected group of girls between 16 and 24. Yes there are always "SIGNS" of attraction/interest sent by the guy but in the matter of fact sometime these signs are only driven by testosterone and/or caring not passion and real interest in the girl, yet girls still consider them as "TRUE Signals" not "Mixed Signals".
In these situations, when the person (male or female) goes in and out, it's safer for us to hold back a little till the situation resolves; It's a totally risky moment for us. I've been faced with those mixed signals many many times and hastily I stepped in and that was really stupid. It feels like being clueless and stuck in the middle of nowhere; can't move forward and can't bear to pull back. On the other hand, in the last few years, I was accused of sending mixed signals in some of my friendships. While I was totally aware of those signals am sending and trying to control them and not to confuse those messy feelings with true ones, the other person was already flashing the green light "YES, please come in".
He7.. It was a really bad experience Allah la yerge3ha!